THE PRACTICE OF AFFIRMATION. Proverbs 18:21, Matthew 3:13-17
This month we cover the topic of Children of Destiny.The main idea here is to help parents build unbreakable relationship with their children. This is particularly important when we have stayed with our children the longest period due to corona virus pandemic and we keep worrying if we did the right thing with them. We trust that it has not been a wasted time for parents and children but has been a refreshing moment instead. We are obviously continuing with this stay home with children and so we have to optimize our time to make impact to their life as we continue.
We begin today with the topic of practice of affirmation as above.
What is positive affirmation? Put simply, they are positive phrases or statements used to challenge negative or unhelpful thoughts. Practicing positive affirmations can be extremely simple, and all you need to do is pick a phrase and repeat it to yourself. This is guided by the scripture in Proverbs Proverbs 18:21 puts it this way: “The tongue has the power of life and death.” The stakes are high. Your words can either speak life, or your words can speak death. Our tongues can build others up, or they can tear them down. An unchecked fire doubles in size every minute. And so with regards to our children, every word we direct to them will have such power to build them or destroy them.
James in the New Testament (James 3: 1-12) describes the tongue and mentions that it is a very small organ of the body but does so much harm or good to the whole body depending on how it is used. In equal measures the tongue and what we speak to our children will have a lasting impact in the life of many.
Back to Proverbs 18: 21 our key text today. According to this proverb, one should take care to watch his or her words carefully, and be slow to speak. Understand the power of speech. There is life and death in words. There is a serious caution here about the words we direct to our children. If you have a habit of losing control of your tongue, whether it is to curse, gossip, brag, lie, or anything else unseemly, ask the Lord to help you be silent. You will eat the fruit of your tongue as a product of how our children develop and grow in our use of words, bitter or sweet.
It is clear therefore that children need positive affirmations. As parents, we know the importance of children getting the nutrition, hydration, sleep, and exercise that they need. While those things are crucial for their physical survival, positive affirmations are just as important for their emotional and mental well being. What you put into your child is what you’re going to get out of them. If they only hear negative comments about themselves, they will actually begin to display more and more of those negative traits. It is no wonder we find a perfect kind of affirmation between God and His son Jesus in the Matthew reading today vs17.
Think of how awesome you feel when someone gives you a compliment. Your children also feel that in their soul. When they’re young, they derive so much of their own identity from their parents. They are watching and listening to you even when you don’t realize it. They need you to be their biggest cheerleader.
A child with confidence feels as though they can take on the world. When the adults in their life are speaking powerful words into them, they feel more capable and will be more willing to take on new challenges.
Positive affirmations are more than just a trendy idea. They contribute to growth mindset and help form who your child believes they can be.
You are your child’s inner dialogue. This means they are going to believe what you have to say about them. If you say they are big, strong, and amazing, then they are going to believe just that and the opposite is also. True. May God help us to affirm our children so that as they grow this will impact positively in their lives. Amen!!!